Discovering How God Sees You-DO NOT USE

Some of us might have sky-high self-esteem, while others are scraping the bottom of the barrel. This week, Kyle dives into how God’s grace shows you the real you—no fake filters, no distortion, just truth. The lie says you don’t have any value, but God says, “You’re worth way more than you believe you are.”

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    - Well, hey, welcome to Crossroads.
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    If you're new here we are a church
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    and a community of people meeting all over the globe.
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    Some meet in church buildings like this one,
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    but others meet online or actually in homes,
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    coffee shops, or even bars.
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    My name is Andy and I lead
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    our Crossroads Anywhere community
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    of people meeting all over the globe.
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    Now we're about to start our time together
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    with some worship, which is just using music
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    to remind ourselves what's true about God
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    and what God says is true about us.
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    Then we're going to hear some teaching
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    from our lead pastor Kyle Ranson.
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    And no matter who you are,
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    what you believe about God or the church
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    or religion, or no matter how your year is going so far,
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    whether you're full of excitement and energy
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    or whether it's been really, really rough since New Years,
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    we're glad that you're here
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    and hope that you can hear how God
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    has fresh vision and encouragement for you
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    as you head into 2025 and beyond.
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    So sing with us, join in.
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    We're so glad you're here with us today.
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    - What's up, everyone? Welcome to Crossroads.
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    So glad that you're here.
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    My name is Eric if we haven't met.
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    Won't you stand to your feet?
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    I just want you to know,
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    no matter what you believe about God,
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    you're in the right place and you're welcome here.
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    We're going to start by singing some songs to Jesus.
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    Let's do it.
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    - Yeah, that's. That's it.
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    By the way, my name is Kyle.
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    Welcome to everybody. Welcome here.
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    Welcome online, at our sites.
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    Happy Martin Luther King Jr. Weekend.
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    Glad that you are with us.
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    When you walked in, if you're at a site,
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    you got a little packet of clay.
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    You can go ahead and get that out.
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    If you're watching online
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    and you want to want to follow along,
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    make the service more tactile,
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    grab something around your house or apartment
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    or coffee shop or wherever that you can squish.
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    It can be your kid's Play-Doh.
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    You can go ahead and steal that from them. That's fine.
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    Some Silly Putty, whatever it takes.
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    If you don't have anything like that,
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    grab a pen, something to draw with
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    and follow along with us.
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    Now, if you're in a room, we gave you this clay
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    for a very, very important reason.
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    We wanted to see who has ADHD,
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    and the answer would be those of us
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    who've already been playing with it
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    and messing with it, and are now
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    just pretending to pull it out of the bag.
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    If that's you. Welcome. That's me too.
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    Glad you're with us. That's awesome.
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    Everybody take it out
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    and just start squishing it around in your hands.
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    See that clay in your hands has to do
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    with what we're talking about today.
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    We're examining this piece of the gospel
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    and hoping to make it more personal and tactile,
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    that we can feel it, that we can walk out of here
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    changed and reshaped, just like
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    you're reshaping that clay right now.
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    And then that piece of the gospel
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    that we're going to look at is the claim
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    that you and I are not accidents,
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    that we are made by a God who loves us
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    and intended us and purposed our life.
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    I think there's no more appropriate topic
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    that we could be covering this weekend
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    that honors a man who gave his life
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    to literally share that message
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    that all life has value,
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    regardless of the color of your skin,
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    or whether you're a man or a woman
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    or anything else, that you have infinite worth
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    and value because you've been made
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    by the creator of the universe.
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    We're going to sing a song right now together
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    that talks about that.
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    It says that God is the one thing
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    who can tell us what we're made for.
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    Why? Because He's the one who made us.
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    - Come on, sing it again. You are the one.
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    - Lord, we stand before You in silence right now,
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    and all of Your beauty
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    maybe wondering if we could actually
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    believe those words to be true,
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    that You made us
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    and you're the one thing I was made for.
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    I want to believe it, Lord.
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    I want to walk with You and give my heart to You.
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    I pray all this because of you, Jesus. Amen. Amen.
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    It's great to be together.
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    You might have wondered what was in that white bag
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    when somebody handed it to you.
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    I don't know. I don't know.
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    Maybe you were confused a bit, but now you know,
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    now you know it's a piece of clay.
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    Hey, why don't you turn to somebody next to you
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    and say, "Hey, I'm glad to be here with you."
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    If you're joining us online,
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    glad you're here with us, too.
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    Then you can have a seat.
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    - Crossroads is a movement of
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    regular, normal, everyday people
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    growing closer to God and changing the world.
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    Now, I know firsthand that I grow
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    and get to a new place with God and in my life
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    when I'm surrounded by a community of people
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    who are both going to challenge me when I need it
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    and give me a shoulder when I need it.
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    Now, this is a really big church,
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    but that also means there's
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    a really great opportunity for you to find
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    a group of people that work for you,
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    and I'm positive that there's one for you here.
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    You can actually head to Crossroads.net/groups.
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    There's actually even a groups quiz tool
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    to help you find your best fit
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    for your current stage of life.
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    And I get it, if that's overwhelming for you,
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    we can do some personalized help for you.
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    We'd love to do this for you.
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    It's actually why my whole team exists.
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    You can just text Anywhere to 301301.
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    We'd love to help you get connected.
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    Now a reminder Crossroads is made up of normal people,
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    and these same normal people are the ones
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    who give money and actually fund all of
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    the great stuff that happens around Crossroads
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    all year long, including the service
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    that you're watching right now and so much more.
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    If you'd like to join the team of faithful people,
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    or just learn more about what Crossroads believes
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    and how we spend money,
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    you can just head to Crossroads.net/give.
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    I'll stop talking now and get out of the way.
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    Let's hear from our Lead Pastor Kyle Ranson
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    as we continue in our series Leave Lies Behind.
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    - Well, hey. Welcome again.
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    You are joining us for the second week
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    of a series that we started last week
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    about the fake gospels versus the real gospel.
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    Last week was amazing, by the way,
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    if you missed it, I highly encourage you
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    to catch up on it.
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    Best way to do that is in the Crossroads app.
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    Don't have it? Download it.
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    I really honestly believe if you do that
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    you will learn something that will bless your life.
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    Speaking of learning something, I was way too old
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    when I learned how babies are made.
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    Okay, it wasn't my fault.
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    I mean, and by that I mean it was.
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    The problem was, I thought I knew how it all worked,
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    and so I didn't go looking for the truth.
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    I thought I had the truth.
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    And then one Saturday morning, late morning,
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    my dad found me and he said, "Hey, Kyle,
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    do you know how babies are made?"
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    I thought that was a bit odd that he was asking me.
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    Said, "Yes, I do." He said, "Okay. How?"
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    "Well, I'll explain it to you, dad.
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    See, what happens is, um, well, you know,
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    uh, well, here's what I think.
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    I think when a mom and dad want to have a baby,
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    they go to the doctor. Probably.
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    And the doctor gives them, like, a baby pill
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    that the mom takes and then the baby grows
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    inside of her stomach where it eats leftover pizza
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    and Diet Coke, probably, and it grows.
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    You know what, dad? It turns out I'm not real sure."
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    Which, by the way, if you're in this room
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    and you don't know how babies are made,
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    I'm not going to explain it to you right now at all.
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    I'm not going to do that, but you can email
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    Brian.Tome@crossroads.net
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    and he will give you all the facts.
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    He really will. It'll be great.
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    See, the thing was, I didn't.
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    I didn't know because I thought I had the truth.
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    And the best way to keep someone
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    from finding the real truth is to convince them
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    that they already have it.
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    And this is what's gone on in our world
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    when it comes to the gospel.
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    It's this word that we hear all the time.
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    And the reality of our world is
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    there are so many gospels shouting at us.
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    Gospel doesn't mean anything particularly religious.
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    It just means good news.
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    It's any claim that anyone has
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    about the best way to live your life,
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    to have a good life.
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    Some of them involve God,
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    some of them don't involve God.
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    There's all of these gospels out there
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    and we have to decide which one is real.
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    The Bible talks about this,
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    actually warns us a lot against fake gospels.
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    One place is Galatians 1:6. Paul writes:
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    Paul says, "I'm just blown away
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    that you're leaving the gospel,
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    the grace of Christ, that's the real gospel,
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    the gospel of grace, for another one."
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    Which he says isn't another one.
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    In other words, it's a fake. It's an impostor.
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    There's actually only one gospel.
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    Today we're going to dive into that gospel of grace.
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    And as I mentioned earlier,
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    unless you hit the jump to message button,
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    which if you're watching online,
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    grab something to sculpt with,
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    jump right back here. Keep going. Okay, cool.
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    At the beginning I mentioned this claim
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    that God actually made us.
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    That's all throughout the Bible,
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    but most clearly it's in these words from Psalm.
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    Psalm 139:14. It's ten words that form this one claim.
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    And the rest of our time is going to be spent
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    in this one claim, digging into it
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    and deciding for each of us in a very personal way
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    do we believe these words and can we say them?
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    The words are these. It says:
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    I praise You because I am fearfully and wonderfully made.
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    See, the foundation of the real gospel of grace
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    is that you are fearfully and wonderfully made,
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    and therefore you need to praise God because of it.
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    I'm telling you, in your life,
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    nothing will change your life more than believing that.
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    Nothing will give you more peace.
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    Nothing will give you more joy.
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    Nothing will give you more confidence.
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    What I find is that even people who believe in God
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    sometimes miss believing that.
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    Let's pray that right now that happens
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    for all of us, that today we take a step forward.
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    Let's pray together before we go any further.
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    God, thank You for being here with us.
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    I believe You are.
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    I believe You're present right now
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    and that You want to form each and every one of us.
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    I ask that every single person in this room,
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    every single person watching online,
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    every single person listening to this as a podcast,
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    all of us, God, would take a step closer
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    to believing this and embracing it fully,
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    that we are fearfully and wonderfully made
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    and we would praise You because of it. Amen.
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    Now, throughout the Bible,
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    the most common picture for God
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    making us fearfully and wonderfully
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    is actually God as a potter and we are clay.
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    One place this shows up very, very clearly,
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    Isaiah 64:8 says: But now, O Lord,
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    You are our Father.
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    We are the clay, and You are our potter.
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    We are all the work of Your hand.
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    That's why J.W. is up here.
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    Can we just say thank you to J.W.
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    making beautiful pottery this entire time?
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    It's very -- I'm just going to give you the,
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    you know, sometimes we're subtle
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    at Crossroads, subtle metaphors.
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    I don't want to be subtle this weekend.
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    This is what the Bible says,
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    that God is a master sculptor
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    and that He has scooped you out of the earth
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    and that He's carefully, intentionally forming you,
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    uniquely, He has a design for you.
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    That is the claim.
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    That's the real gospel of grace,
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    you are fearfully and wonderfully made.
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    But there are other gospels, and primarily
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    I want to look at two fake gospels
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    that try to impinge on this belief,
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    that specifically, go after this one area
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    about being made.
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    There's a secular gospel.
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    It says that you're not made,
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    instead you're random and you need to be proud of it.
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    That's the secular gospel.
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    You're random and need to be proud of it.
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    And then there's also the religious gospel
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    that says, yes, you're made,
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    but not fearfully and wonderfully.
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    You are common and you need to accept it.
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    At best you're average.
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    You're probably a disappointment.
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    The best thing you can do is just accept that,
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    believe that, live that.
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    That's the religious gospel.
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    Both of those I believe are false,
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    and both of them, I believe, are prevalent.
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    Why? Because of how this message started for me.
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    This started as a burn at work one day.
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    And I know I work at a church and a lot of people
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    you don't understand what we do, not on Sundays.
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    You know what I mean?
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    Like on Sundays, everyone's like, I get it, you know?
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    Or the Thursday night service at Oakley,
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    you're like, "I get it what you do, but like,
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    what do you do the rest of the week?
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    You know, like, you guys practice baptizing people?
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    You know?" Yeah we do, we have lawnmowers
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    and we just -- we just do that.
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    It's like a really turns out same muscles
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    really works it out.
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    You got an important part is
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    raising the back up out of the water.
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    So we -- No, of course -- our job is a lot
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    like what your job is probably like.
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    We have meetings and we have schedules
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    and we do planning and we meet with people
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    and stuff like that.
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    But there is one thing we do that's probably unique
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    from wherever you work is that we pray together
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    every morning as a staff in different teams
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    and different groups.
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    And the reason we do that is because
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    we're going for stuff here at Crossroads
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    that's beyond our capacity.
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    And so we invite God into it and we say,
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    "God, said, God, we can't do this without You."
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    One morning, back in probably late November
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    or early December, I was at one of these
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    staff prayer meetings and the guy leading it,
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    Josh Surkamp. He's an amazing guy,
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    amazing leader here at Crossroads.
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    And he was leading us in a gratitude exercise.
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    And he said, "Today we're going to do something
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    that might be uncomfortable for you."
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    He said, "Today we're going to praise God
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    for how He's made us."
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    He's like, "I want you to think of something
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    very specific about how God has made you,
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    and just pray gratitude to Him.
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    And by the way, we do this out loud
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    in front of each other.
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    This is not silent in your seats,
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    you know, just kind of --
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    Out loud, say something you like about yourself
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    and then thank God for it."
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    And I watch, and by the way, he tied it to this verse.
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    Psalm 139:14, it says: I will praise You
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    because I'm fearfully and wonderfully made.
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    And I watched for the next 30 minutes
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    and listened for the next 30 minutes
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    as my teammates who deeply believe in the gospel
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    all struggled to say thanks.
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    Person after person who is brave enough
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    to say anything at all gave the same sort of preamble.
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    They said, "You know, this is actually really hard
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    for me because most of the time
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    when I think about myself, the things I think
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    aren't that great at all, it's difficult.
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    It's difficult to say it out loud in front of people.
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    It's very hard."
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    And I'm telling you, it was heartbreaking.
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    And I left that experience and I thought,
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    if this is so hard for us who work on a church staff
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    who are surrounded by the gospel day after day,
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    how much harder is it for everybody else?
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    That was the birth of this message.
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    That's where the burn for it started.
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    Now, as we examine this, I want to start
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    at the end of the verse.
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    Let me just say too, if that's you,
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    incredible empathy.
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    I have been in that spot in my life
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    where it's very difficult to think about
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    anything that I like about myself.
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    I'll talk about that more later. I've been there.
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    And if that's where you are now,
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    if that hit you just then, let me just say
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    you are in the right spot.
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    It doesn't matter if you believe in Jesus.
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    It doesn't matter if you like church.
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    If you're here and you're listening,
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    you are in the right spot and you're welcome.
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    I'm honored that you're with us.
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    I hope that this helps you and pushes you forward.
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    Now we're going to start at the end of the verse
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    is this word "made."
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    I praise You because I am fearfully and wonderfully made.
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    See the foundational thought and the whole thing
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    is that word: Are you made or are you not?
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    This is the word where the secular gospel
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    and the real gospel diverge sharply,
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    because the secular gospel says that you're random
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    and you need to be proud of it.
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    In other word for random is accident.
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    This is kind of the basic idea
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    of how did you start? You weren't made.
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    Instead you were a random accident
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    that the universe just sort of randomly,
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    spontaneously, with no intent,
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    no intelligence behind it, no design, no purpose.
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    It wasn't, and then it was.
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    That is the origin story in the secular gospel.
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    The other day, my son looked at my daughter Gracie,
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    and he said, "Gracie, no offense, but your feet stink."
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    And then she was offended and he was like,
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    "I said, 'No offense.'"
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    And I had to kind of explain to him,
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    unfortunately, that's not how that phrase works, actually.
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    And so at risk of doing the same thing,
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    let me just say to those of us
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    who currently believe in this secular gospel
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    that the origins of you are that you're not made,
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    but you're just random and an accident.
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    No offense, but I find it strange that
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    the very same people who would look at me
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    and say, "I can't believe an intelligent person
  • 00:34:08
    would ever believe in the virgin birth of Jesus
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    themselves believe in the virgin birth of the universe.
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    That there's no mother, there's no father,
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    there's no creator, there's no originator,
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    just, poof, kind of happened.
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    That defies logic to me.
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    I mean, if you walked in this room
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    and you saw a pot being made,
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    would you assume that that was just random?
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    No. You might be like, "Well, yeah.
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    I mean, because, you know, J.W. is there
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    and he's making it right now. Cool. Awesome."
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    Imagine he wasn't here.
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    Imagine you walked in and you saw this shelf.
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    Would any of you walk up and go, "You know what?
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    I put 50 bucks on that probably just, like,
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    popped out of nothing"? No, of course not.
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    And yet, this is the belief that forms
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    the foundation of the entire secular gospel.
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    That's a massive problem,
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    but it's actually not the biggest one.
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    The logical gap is not the biggest one.
  • 00:35:05
    The biggest problem is the emotional gap.
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    Because, see, when you're an accident,
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    when you have no intent, when you have no design,
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    when everything is truly just random,
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    you don't have any value
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    and it's really, really hard to get around that fact.
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    Really hard.
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    And I know some of us, again, we feel this way right now.
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    I know some of us we feel just kind of random.
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    You know? We don't know that we have any purpose.
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    We don't feel any sense of design.
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    There's no rhyme or logic.
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    Life feels random. Life feels chaotic.
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    And because of that, we feel
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    deeply, deeply unwanted, deeply unloved,
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    deeply unvalued.
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    I'll just say, if that's you, if you're in here
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    and you believe the secular gospel, again,
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    so honored you're here.
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    So glad that you're with us. It's amazing.
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    Can I just gently ask you a question?
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    Is it working for you?
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    Is it making you happy?
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    Is it the good news that's leading you to a good life?
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    Because if it's not, doesn't that mean it's fake?
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    If it's not delivering on the promise,
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    doesn't that mean it's fake?
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    And I'd love to offer you good news that
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    the Bible says you're not a mistake.
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    No one in this room is, no one watching is,
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    no one's a mistake. Everyone has been made.
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    And because of that, you have value.
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    See, the gospel says that all life has value,
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    a foundational part of the entire gospel,
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    all life has value.
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    We believe that here at Crossroads
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    and we live it out.
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    In fact, a quick aside, just in case
  • 00:36:41
    you're curious, there have been
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    all over the news headlines,
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    stories about the California wildfires
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    and people losing houses and being displaced
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    and all sorts of things.
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    We honestly believe that all life has value.
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    And so pleased to tell you, if you're a giver
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    here at Crossroads, you've helped make this happen.
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    Just yesterday, we were able to release $50,000
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    to go to Convoy of Hope to help with
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    the disaster relief in California.
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    I want you to know you're a part of that.
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    You're an absolute part of that. So that's going to go,
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    that's going to help 1250 families for two weeks
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    have food and water and air purification,
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    and hopefully make it through
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    to the other side of this tragedy.
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    Why would we do that?
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    Because we believe that every life has value,
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    every single one of them.
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    The Bible says that we have been made,
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    but not just made.
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    Do you notice in that verse it says
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    really specifically, there's two adverbs
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    attached to how we've been made.
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    Not carelessly. Not accidentally.
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    It says fearfully and wonderfully.
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    Now, that word fearfully is a little bit odd,
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    right? We tend to use the word fear
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    it has to do with being scary.
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    And that's not the context for this word.
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    This word fearfully does not mean scarily.
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    Instead, what it means is awesomely,
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    with reverence.
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    And the word wonderfully actually means
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    distinctly, uniquely created.
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    It's distinguished from one another.
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    And so the claim of the gospel is not just that
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    you were made like in a big batch. You know?
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    God doesn't really make things that sell at Costco.
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    I'm going to make a 12 pack of Kim's
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    and they're all going to be the same.
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    That's not God.
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    God says, I'm going to go to each person
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    individually and uniquely make them.
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    That is the claim of the gospel.
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    Those things together form this idea
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    that the Bible says that
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    you and I are not just made, we are a masterpiece.
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    But here's where I find that many believers,
  • 00:38:44
    they veer off the path of believing the real gospel
  • 00:38:47
    and instead start to fall into the trap of,
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    I believe, what I would call the religious gospel,
  • 00:38:52
    believing the religious gospel.
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    That you are actually just common,
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    and that what God wants for you is
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    to accept how common and plain and undeserving
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    and bad and disappointing you are.
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    That God really just wants us to feel
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    not like a pot, but just kind of like that.
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    That's me. You're a lump. You don't deserve it.
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    I rescued you when you were bad. You're still bad.
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    And I kind of regret it. So we think.
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    That's the religious lie. That's not the gospel.
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    It's also not how you and I started.
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    I've yet to meet a 5 year old who believes they're average.
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    Haven't met that yet.
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    I haven't met a kid who's 6 who walks up
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    and is like, "Hi, you know my name?
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    My name is Tanner, and I'm pretty common."
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    Never happened.
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    Kids are always excited to tell you
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    about how great they are and show you their work
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    and talk to you and just all the stuff, right?
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    I mean, parents in here, have you ever had a kid,
  • 00:39:53
    5 year old, 6 year old, ever say to you,
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    "You know what I want to be for Halloween?
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    45 year old cog in the wheel.
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    That's what I want to be. That's what aiming.
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    That's what I really feel inside that I really am."
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    No, no.
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    You got that clay in your hand.
  • 00:40:12
    I want you to get it out, if it's not out already.
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    Again, those of us with ADHD,
  • 00:40:16
    we've been playing with it the entire time
  • 00:40:18
    because we can't stop. Totally understand.
  • 00:40:19
    That is 100% me. Get it out.
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    I want you to think back to when you were 5,
  • 00:40:26
    when you were 6, before this idea that
  • 00:40:30
    you were just common and average and normal set out.
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    By the way, if you're having trouble
  • 00:40:34
    getting it out, toothpaste it.
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    That's the best way. Just kind of squish it out.
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    There you go.
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    Think back when you were 5 or 6 years old.
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    What was it you dressed up for as Halloween?
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    What was it you dreamed of being?
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    Maybe it was a football player.
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    If it was, make a football.
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    Whatever it is, make a thing that represents it
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    in your hands. Here's a football, right?
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    Just kind of a football player.
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    Football players are powerful. They're strong.
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    They have this this air of heroism.
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    Maybe for you, it was being a ballerina.
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    Make a little ballerina shoe.
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    Ballerinas are beautiful, powerful,
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    sophisticated, graceful. That's what it was.
  • 00:41:19
    Maybe it was being a firefighter.
  • 00:41:22
    Again, this idea of saving and being a rescuer
  • 00:41:25
    and a hero to people, whatever it was,
  • 00:41:27
    I want you to just make the thing that represents
  • 00:41:29
    what you wanted to be or what you believed
  • 00:41:32
    about yourself when you were 5 or 6 years old.
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    Make that thing.
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    Now the problem is for every single person
  • 00:41:40
    I've ever met, we don't hold on to that dream
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    because see life comes our way
  • 00:41:45
    and it just starts to squish it, just crush it
  • 00:41:49
    and just make it into something not great.
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    And the life that comes our way
  • 00:41:53
    are all the situations that show us
  • 00:41:55
    that we actually have problems,
  • 00:41:57
    that we're not the best at everything,
  • 00:41:59
    that in fact, that some things were average
  • 00:42:01
    and some things were even below average.
  • 00:42:03
    And so we start to believe this about ourselves,
  • 00:42:06
    that there's things that were just not good at
  • 00:42:08
    and so maybe were not good.
  • 00:42:10
    I'll just admit, there's things I'm not good at,
  • 00:42:12
    particularly as a dad.
  • 00:42:14
    And I don't know that any dads
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    are actually good at these things:
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    buying the right size shoes for my kids.
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    Very bad at that.
  • 00:42:20
    I've spent an hour in Dick's Sporting Goods, like,
  • 00:42:23
    doing the thumb trick. You know?
  • 00:42:25
    "I think that's the right, I feel your toe.
  • 00:42:26
    I'm not really sure." Get it home.
  • 00:42:28
    And every time Sarah's like, "You were so close,
  • 00:42:30
    you bought a three and she's actually size eight,
  • 00:42:32
    so that's pretty good." Not good at that.
  • 00:42:36
    Dads aren't good at that.
  • 00:42:37
    Dads, we also aren't good at
  • 00:42:39
    picking up prescriptions for our kids.
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    I actually think this is something
  • 00:42:42
    we should take off the table for all dads,
  • 00:42:44
    because it doesn't go the same way for us
  • 00:42:46
    as it does for moms.
  • 00:42:47
    When moms roll up, they just roll up
  • 00:42:48
    and they're like, "I'd like the medicine for my child,"
  • 00:42:51
    and they just hand it to them.
  • 00:42:52
    When us dads roll up, they give us a test.
  • 00:42:56
    They say, "What is the patient's date of birth?"
  • 00:43:01
    And we're like, "You know, I love my family,
  • 00:43:02
    but, uh, you want the numbers or you want like a general.
  • 00:43:06
    I mean, I was there.
  • 00:43:08
    I can show you a picture if you want, of being there."
  • 00:43:10
    You know, that doesn't work, I tried that.
  • 00:43:13
    I think it should work like Wheel of Fortune.
  • 00:43:14
    You know what I mean?
  • 00:43:15
    Where, like, when you guess a one,
  • 00:43:18
    if there's other ones, you also get those filled in, too.
  • 00:43:21
    I think that would be great.
  • 00:43:22
    Not good at that as a dad.
  • 00:43:24
    If there's something I'm looking for in the pantry
  • 00:43:26
    and there's anything else in the pantry,
  • 00:43:27
    also a problem for me. Not good.
  • 00:43:30
    Now, more than that, right?
  • 00:43:32
    I realized early on as a kid,
  • 00:43:34
    I have this memory at a baseball practice,
  • 00:43:37
    and our coach was having us run before practice.
  • 00:43:42
    And my whole team starts to run,
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    and we run to the end of the baseball field
  • 00:43:47
    all the way to the outfield of the fence.
  • 00:43:48
    We touch the fence and we turn around.
  • 00:43:51
    And I was the last kid back.
  • 00:43:55
    And I wasn't just the last kid back.
  • 00:43:57
    I had trouble breathing, and I actually
  • 00:44:00
    had to sit out the next 15 minutes of practice.
  • 00:44:04
    Why? Because I had asthma.
  • 00:44:06
    I learned that maybe I wasn't so strong.
  • 00:44:09
    Maybe I wasn't so fast.
  • 00:44:12
    I also, as I grew up, I noticed that
  • 00:44:14
    other kids grew up and and I just sort of like,
  • 00:44:19
    you know, er, er, er, er, and then I stopped
  • 00:44:22
    at some point way too early.
  • 00:44:24
    That was kind of it for me.
  • 00:44:25
    I was always been very small, always been very short.
  • 00:44:27
    I just noticed that about me.
  • 00:44:29
    Well maybe I'm not big, maybe I'm not heroic.
  • 00:44:32
    You know? I also noticed, where the other kids
  • 00:44:35
    in my class, they could just pay attention
  • 00:44:37
    and they could, like, do two things at once.
  • 00:44:39
    They could, like, hear the teacher
  • 00:44:41
    and listen to instructions and do their work.
  • 00:44:45
    That was not me. I could do my work,
  • 00:44:47
    but whatever else was happening around me,
  • 00:44:49
    I had no idea it even existed.
  • 00:44:51
    That's the same thing that happens to this day.
  • 00:44:53
    Not even kidding.
  • 00:44:54
    I have to, like, when I'm backstage,
  • 00:44:56
    I have to, like, very intentionally go, like,
  • 00:44:58
    "You know what? You're supposed to preach soon.
  • 00:45:00
    You should go out and get on stage and start."
  • 00:45:03
    I will absolutely, just completely forget.
  • 00:45:05
    That's called ADHD, by the way.
  • 00:45:08
    And I learned this about myself.
  • 00:45:09
    And for a long time, all this stuff piled up
  • 00:45:11
    and who I thought I was at some point in my life
  • 00:45:14
    was not a fearfully and wonderfully made person,
  • 00:45:17
    but a deeply and tragically flawed one.
  • 00:45:19
    I thought I was the lump.
  • 00:45:21
    I thought I was nothing.
  • 00:45:23
    I thought I was a small, weak, absent minded lump.
  • 00:45:29
    What about you?
  • 00:45:31
    I wonder, in your life, what are the things
  • 00:45:33
    that have added that up to you?
  • 00:45:35
    Was it as you walked around, did you notice
  • 00:45:37
    that you were slow? Were you too small?
  • 00:45:39
    Were you too big? What is it in your life?
  • 00:45:43
    This happens to every single one.
  • 00:45:46
    What are the hardest parts of parenting
  • 00:45:48
    is actually watching your kids enter into this phase
  • 00:45:52
    where they stop believing that
  • 00:45:54
    they're fearfully and wonderfully made,
  • 00:45:56
    and they start believing maybe they're not.
  • 00:46:00
    One of the highlights of my last year
  • 00:46:02
    was getting to do Christmas Eve services
  • 00:46:04
    with my daughter, Gracie.
  • 00:46:05
    If you were here, Gracie was on stage with me.
  • 00:46:07
    It was so incredibly special and she read
  • 00:46:10
    a scripture verse in front of everybody.
  • 00:46:13
    And when I say everybody, just for perspective,
  • 00:46:16
    if you're newer to Crossroads,
  • 00:46:17
    it's a lot of people, a lot of people.
  • 00:46:21
    In the room that she was reading in,
  • 00:46:22
    the very first service she did it
  • 00:46:24
    was completely packed, 3500 people.
  • 00:46:25
    There were another 1100 people in overflow
  • 00:46:28
    at just the location that she was at.
  • 00:46:30
    Tens of thousands of people heard her.
  • 00:46:32
    And my wife asked her before and after.
  • 00:46:36
    She was like, "Gracie, were were you nervous?"
  • 00:46:38
    And Gracie's like, "No. You know, like,
  • 00:46:40
    why would I be nervous?"
  • 00:46:42
    She's just got this amazing, natural confidence.
  • 00:46:46
    Well, that same girl just last weekend
  • 00:46:49
    played soccer and she came off the field
  • 00:46:53
    and she looked at Sarah and I, and she goes,
  • 00:46:55
    "I just feel like I'm disappointing you."
  • 00:46:57
    And she hung her head.
  • 00:47:00
    And as a parent, it's so hard
  • 00:47:03
    because you know those feelings.
  • 00:47:05
    You walked that path and you know that
  • 00:47:07
    I feel like I disappointed you
  • 00:47:10
    leads to I feel like I am a disappointment.
  • 00:47:14
    It is heartbreaking.
  • 00:47:16
    And it's exactly how God feels about you
  • 00:47:19
    when you think the same thing about yourself,
  • 00:47:22
    when you look at you and you go, "You know,
  • 00:47:25
    I'm just not like everybody else.
  • 00:47:28
    Everybody else has this nice shape to them.
  • 00:47:31
    I'm just too quirky."
  • 00:47:36
    Breaks God's heart. That's what we do to ourselves.
  • 00:47:39
    "Oh, you know me. I'm just kind of, I don't know,
  • 00:47:42
    just, just too small. Yeah, I don't know.
  • 00:47:46
    Me, I just feel too big."
  • 00:47:47
    That didn't break at all, [laughter]
  • 00:47:52
    because of how big it is, I guess.
  • 00:47:55
    That's God. Look, He just listens to us
  • 00:47:58
    make these complaints that we think are innocent.
  • 00:48:01
    That self-talk that we have in our heads,
  • 00:48:02
    I think, is the thing that bothers God the most
  • 00:48:05
    about the entire world.
  • 00:48:06
    You might look around and point a finger
  • 00:48:08
    at somebody else, "Bet God's really upset about that."
  • 00:48:10
    No, I think God's really upset about
  • 00:48:11
    the way that you talk about you to you,
  • 00:48:14
    that's what God's upset about. Why?
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    Because you're His masterpiece.
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    He made you fearfully. He made you wonderfully.
  • 00:48:22
    He doesn't want you to bash yourself.
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    He wants you to embrace it and to praise Him for it.
  • 00:48:28
    Praise Him for it.
  • 00:48:30
    He says this in Isaiah 29:16. He says:
  • 00:48:32
    You turn things upside down!
  • 00:48:34
    You've got it all wrong.
  • 00:48:47
    In other words, the potter --
  • 00:48:49
    The pot saying to the potter, "You messed up.
  • 00:48:52
    You don't know what you're doing.
  • 00:48:53
    You made me wrong." No.
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    See, The real gospel of grace is that
  • 00:48:59
    He formed you from clay,
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    but you haven't stayed that way.
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    He breathed His life into you.
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    He made you from the dust. You're not still dust.
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    You're not common. You've been created by the master.
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    Do you know what you call
  • 00:49:15
    a common Michelangelo sculpture? A masterpiece.
  • 00:49:22
    Do you know what you call
  • 00:49:24
    a common Leonardo painting? Masterpiece.
  • 00:49:28
    Do you know what you call
  • 00:49:30
    a common Frank Lloyd Wright house? A masterpiece?
  • 00:49:34
    Do you know what you call a common Keanu Reeves movie?
  • 00:49:38
    It's not quite the same. Okay, I get it.
  • 00:49:40
    No. It's fine. Yeah.
  • 00:49:42
    Point is, everything made by a master artist
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    is, by definition, a masterpiece. That's you.
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    Ephesians 2:10 says, we are God's masterpiece.
  • 00:49:56
    He's created us anew in Christ Jesus
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    so we can do the good things He planned for us
  • 00:50:01
    a long time ago. This is the truth.
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    If you believe in Jesus, there is no other gospel.
  • 00:50:09
    I just wondered, has the gospel of religion grabbed you?
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    No, I'm just common. No, I'm just low.
  • 00:50:14
    No, I just --- I think bad of myself.
  • 00:50:16
    No, I just need to not get too high and not get too mighty.
  • 00:50:19
    No, you need to agree with God.
  • 00:50:20
    You know what's high and mighty?
  • 00:50:21
    Not agreeing with God. That's pride.
  • 00:50:23
    You know what's humble? Agreeing with Him,
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    even if He says something good about you.
  • 00:50:26
    That's the call of God.
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    I think we don't do it because
  • 00:50:29
    we're afraid of overvaluing ourselves.
  • 00:50:32
    You ever overvalued something?
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    I did this not long ago.
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    My kids have gone to school for the very first time.
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    Let me fact check that for a second.
  • 00:50:38
    They were homeschooled before.
  • 00:50:40
    Okay, it wasn't like we just kind of sat around.
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    We went to, like, a real school
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    for the first time this this year.
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    And they never had grades before, no report cards.
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    And I really wanted to incentivize them
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    to do good work. And so I told them, you know,
  • 00:50:53
    "I'll pay you for you for good grades,"
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    basically it. That's what I did.
  • 00:50:56
    Don't know if that's good parenting or bad parenting.
  • 00:50:58
    Please don't take my advice. Totally untested. \
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    Try this out. And I don't know, again, I'm a dad.
  • 00:51:03
    I'm not good at many things.
  • 00:51:04
    Like, I barely know what school they go to,
  • 00:51:06
    much less how many classes they have.
  • 00:51:08
    And so I just said, you know, "I'm going to pay you
  • 00:51:11
    20 bucks for an A, 25 for an A+, 15 for a B.
  • 00:51:15
    Heck, let's throw on a bonus,
  • 00:51:16
    if you get straight A's 25 more bucks."
  • 00:51:19
    I say this and Sarah's looking at me
  • 00:51:20
    and she's like, "Oh no, oh no."
  • 00:51:23
    Turns out that all of them got straight A's,
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    so I'm very poor is what that means.
  • 00:51:29
    Totally overvalued it, really bad.
  • 00:51:31
    Had to have a conversation about, you know,
  • 00:51:33
    management's going to reduce the prices
  • 00:51:35
    for the next semester.
  • 00:51:37
    So had that talk with them.
  • 00:51:39
    It's totally overvalued. I think this is us.
  • 00:51:42
    I think that many of us believe that we're common.
  • 00:51:44
    It's easier for us to believe that
  • 00:51:46
    because we don't want to overvalue ourselves.
  • 00:51:48
    We don't want to find ourselves in the position
  • 00:51:50
    where God goes, "You thought you were worth what?
  • 00:51:53
    Can't believe you'd ever think that."
  • 00:51:55
    That's us, but that's never going to happen.
  • 00:51:58
    God is the master. He's proud of you.
  • 00:52:01
    How do I know that?
  • 00:52:04
    Well, because when an artist creates something
  • 00:52:07
    that they're proud of, do you know what they do to it?
  • 00:52:11
    They sign their name.
  • 00:52:13
    Do you know that God has signed His name on you?
  • 00:52:17
    The Bible says this in a couple places.
  • 00:52:19
    One 2 Corinthians 1:21-22, it says:
  • 00:52:30
    (That means His signature on us)
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    And then, even more directly,
  • 00:52:38
    in the very last book of the Bible,
  • 00:52:40
    Revelation 22:4, it says it this way,
  • 00:52:43
    very explicitly. It says:
  • 00:52:44
    They will see His face,
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    and His name will be on their foreheads.
  • 00:52:50
    God says, "One day you're going to see yourself
  • 00:52:54
    and you're going to see yourself
  • 00:52:55
    as a masterpiece with My signature on you."
  • 00:52:59
    Don't buy the religious gospel
  • 00:53:01
    that what God wants for you
  • 00:53:02
    is to believe you're common and accept it.
  • 00:53:04
    No, what God wants for you is to believe
  • 00:53:06
    that you're a masterpiece
  • 00:53:08
    and that He has made you for a purpose.
  • 00:53:11
    That's the gospel of grace.
  • 00:53:13
    It doesn't matter what mistakes you've made,
  • 00:53:15
    doesn't matter what flaws you see,
  • 00:53:16
    none of that matters. God isn't done with you.
  • 00:53:21
    This is the last piece of this gospel of grace.
  • 00:53:23
    Notice that in the middle of Psalm 139:14 it says,
  • 00:53:26
    I praise you because I am, two words,
  • 00:53:29
    I am, present tense. I am.
  • 00:53:32
    That just means that this isn't something
  • 00:53:33
    God is doing in the future.
  • 00:53:35
    It's not something God has accomplished
  • 00:53:36
    fully all the way already.
  • 00:53:39
    In a very real sense, you and I are still being made.
  • 00:53:43
    I think many of us, we want to discard this idea of growth,
  • 00:53:46
    but the reality is that God's not done.
  • 00:53:50
    He says, I am, not I was.
  • 00:53:52
    You know, who wrote the Psalm 139,
  • 00:53:54
    those words that we've been looking at?
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    It's David, not, by the way,
  • 00:53:59
    at the beginning of his life,
  • 00:54:01
    at the very end of his life.
  • 00:54:02
    Scholars are pretty in agreement on this fact
  • 00:54:05
    that these are words, they represent maturity from him.
  • 00:54:07
    These are at the end of his life.
  • 00:54:08
    That means David wrote these words after he had an affair.
  • 00:54:14
    David wrote these words after he failed as a father
  • 00:54:17
    and his son, Absalom rebelled against him.
  • 00:54:20
    David wrote these words after
  • 00:54:21
    David himself rebelled against God,
  • 00:54:23
    did something he knew he wasn't supposed to,
  • 00:54:25
    and took a census which resulted in
  • 00:54:26
    the deaths of tens of thousands of people.
  • 00:54:29
    David wrote these words after all that,
  • 00:54:31
    and he still says about himself,
  • 00:54:34
    "I praise You because I am fearfully
  • 00:54:38
    and wonderfully made."
  • 00:54:39
    How in the world could he say that?
  • 00:54:42
    Because he knew God wasn't done.
  • 00:54:45
    He knew his life was a life lived on the wheel.
  • 00:54:50
    This is your life, for the rest of your days
  • 00:54:53
    you're on the wheel.
  • 00:54:55
    And the good news about it is
  • 00:54:57
    no matter what hangups you have,
  • 00:54:58
    no matter what outages you have,
  • 00:55:00
    no matter what flaws you see
  • 00:55:03
    God's still working on you. He's not done.
  • 00:55:07
    I think the older you get, the more important
  • 00:55:09
    this message becomes for you.
  • 00:55:10
    Because, see, what I find is that the older you get,
  • 00:55:12
    the easier it is to believe that growth
  • 00:55:14
    was a thing that happened in the past,
  • 00:55:16
    that your days of getting better are over.
  • 00:55:20
    No, they're not. No, they're not.
  • 00:55:22
    The worst you that will ever exist
  • 00:55:24
    is the you that exists now. Do you know that?
  • 00:55:28
    See, tomorrow you'll be better. Why?
  • 00:55:30
    Because God is working on you every single day.
  • 00:55:34
    He's not done with you.
  • 00:55:37
    This is what it says in Jeremiah 18:1. It says:
  • 00:56:08
    God can make you and remake you again
  • 00:56:12
    and again and again and again.
  • 00:56:15
    Last week we had an amazing opportunity for people
  • 00:56:17
    to come down and receive prayer for healing,
  • 00:56:20
    in other words, to get better.
  • 00:56:21
    We had an amazing response.
  • 00:56:23
    Over 2400 people across sites and online got prayed for.
  • 00:56:27
    If you are one of the prayer volunteers,
  • 00:56:28
    thank you, thank you, thank you.
  • 00:56:30
    It's hard to clap with this kind of music,
  • 00:56:32
    but let's give it our best shot anyway, right?
  • 00:56:36
    It's an amazing experience.
  • 00:56:37
    We saw many, many healings, by the way.
  • 00:56:39
    Many people were made better instantly.
  • 00:56:41
    And by the way, if that wasn't you,
  • 00:56:43
    if you didn't receive instant healing,
  • 00:56:45
    do not worry, you are on the on the wheel.
  • 00:56:47
    You're on the wheel. God's not done yet.
  • 00:56:49
    Do not be discouraged. God's not done yet.
  • 00:56:52
    Saw so many people go forward.
  • 00:56:54
    Now, do you know who went forward?
  • 00:56:58
    The people who thought they could get better.
  • 00:57:00
    The people who believed God wasn't done with them.
  • 00:57:04
    That was me. I went, I went forward.
  • 00:57:05
    I was at the East side. It was a great service.
  • 00:57:08
    And, you know, Brian gave that call
  • 00:57:09
    for healing prayer at the end of the message.
  • 00:57:11
    And at first I sat there and I thought,
  • 00:57:13
    "You know, I don't have any physical healing issue needs.
  • 00:57:17
    I don't have a knee that's bad
  • 00:57:18
    or a shoulder that's out or anything like that.
  • 00:57:20
    And, you know, it's just like,
  • 00:57:21
    oh God, that's so great. Thank you so much for that."
  • 00:57:23
    And then Brian talked about what he wanted prayer for.
  • 00:57:26
    He talked about being self-centered
  • 00:57:28
    and wanting God to make him better
  • 00:57:29
    and to heal him from that and to bring him to a new place.
  • 00:57:32
    And that was convicting to me because I sat there
  • 00:57:34
    and was like, "Oh, right,
  • 00:57:37
    You're making me better in all the ways.
  • 00:57:38
    Maybe you're not so concerned about my elbow
  • 00:57:40
    as you are the way that I treat my family."
  • 00:57:43
    And I thought to that morning
  • 00:57:45
    and I thought to the day before
  • 00:57:46
    where I was harsh with my family.
  • 00:57:48
    And so I went down and I received prayer
  • 00:57:50
    from an amazing volunteer named Pam.
  • 00:57:51
    I walked up and I just said, "You know, Pam,
  • 00:57:54
    I would love you to pray for me
  • 00:57:56
    that God would make me gentle and kind,
  • 00:57:59
    in particular with my kids.
  • 00:58:01
    It's a real struggle for me."
  • 00:58:03
    And she said, "Oh, I'd love to pray for you."
  • 00:58:04
    She told me that that was actually a thing
  • 00:58:06
    that she asked God for recently.
  • 00:58:07
    It was her word for the year, and how God had changed her,
  • 00:58:10
    had grown her, and she prayed for me.
  • 00:58:12
    I'm happy to tell you since then. Guess what?
  • 00:58:13
    It's been way easier to be kind and to be gentle.
  • 00:58:16
    Why? Because God's not done.
  • 00:58:19
    And I want to just push on you a little bit.
  • 00:58:22
    If you were here last weekend,
  • 00:58:25
    if you watched online and you didn't text in for prayer,
  • 00:58:29
    you didn't chat in, can I just ask you,
  • 00:58:32
    is it because you think God's done?
  • 00:58:35
    Does any piece of you believe that you can't get better?
  • 00:58:39
    If so, you don't believe the gospel.
  • 00:58:42
    And I have good news,
  • 00:58:43
    it's so much better than you've been thinking.
  • 00:58:45
    See, God wants to make you
  • 00:58:47
    better than you can ever imagine.
  • 00:58:49
    Better. Philippians 1:6 says:
  • 00:58:51
    I'm sure of this, that He who began
  • 00:58:54
    a good work in you will bring it to completion
  • 00:58:57
    at the day of Jesus Christ.
  • 00:58:58
    God will complete the work.
  • 00:59:00
    It's not an if. It's not a maybe.
  • 00:59:03
    It's an absolute.
  • 00:59:05
    This is the verse we've been looking at:
  • 00:59:07
    I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made.
  • 00:59:14
    See, God wants from you more than
  • 00:59:16
    just intellectual assent to this idea.
  • 00:59:20
    What God wants is for you to praise Him
  • 00:59:23
    specifically for some way that you're thankful
  • 00:59:26
    for how He's made you.
  • 00:59:29
    That's what we're going to end our time with,
  • 00:59:31
    just to just do really tactically.
  • 00:59:32
    And first, I just want to invite you,
  • 00:59:34
    if you've believed something less of yourself
  • 00:59:37
    than what God has and what God says about you,
  • 00:59:39
    I just want to invite you
  • 00:59:41
    to do something very, very simple,
  • 00:59:42
    and that's just repent.
  • 00:59:45
    Just say, "God, I'm sorry."
  • 00:59:47
    Because guess what?
  • 00:59:48
    It doesn't matter if you've said no offense.
  • 00:59:51
    When you criticize the art, you've criticized the artist.
  • 00:59:54
    You can just say, "God, I'm sorry, I'm sorry.
  • 00:59:56
    Help me agree with what You say about me."
  • 01:00:01
    The step two is just praise Him.
  • 01:00:03
    You got that clay still on your hand?
  • 01:00:05
    I want you take that clay and we're going to do
  • 01:00:09
    what we did in that staff prayer all those weeks ago.
  • 01:00:12
    I want you right now as you hold this clay
  • 01:00:15
    to think about something about yourself
  • 01:00:18
    that you are grateful to God for.
  • 01:00:21
    What is a way that God has made you
  • 01:00:23
    wonderfully, fearfully, uniquely, awesomely
  • 01:00:26
    that you just want to say thanks.
  • 01:00:28
    And just make the thing that represents that.
  • 01:00:30
    Maybe you're somebody with wisdom.
  • 01:00:32
    If that's you, you don't have to be ashamed of it.
  • 01:00:34
    You can just sculpt a little owl that represents wisdom.
  • 01:00:37
    Maybe you're strong, make a little elephant.
  • 01:00:40
    Maybe you're into hospitality, make a little pot.
  • 01:00:42
    I don't know what it is.
  • 01:00:44
    Make something that just says to Him.,
  • 01:00:46
    "I believe that I am who You say I am."
  • 01:00:51
    And as we do that,
  • 01:00:53
    we're going to listen to this song together.
  • 01:07:52
    - That's the gospel.
  • 01:07:55
    You're not a lump of clay.
  • 01:07:58
    You're not a random accident.
  • 01:08:01
    You're a masterpiece made by
  • 01:08:03
    the creator of the universe who thought about you
  • 01:08:05
    before the foundations of the earth
  • 01:08:07
    were ever put into place and said,
  • 01:08:09
    "I'm excited to make you."
  • 01:08:13
    I don't know what you made to thank God.
  • 01:08:15
    I made a question mark, represents curiosity.
  • 01:08:19
    It's the thing I'm most thankful for
  • 01:08:21
    about how God has made me.
  • 01:08:22
    It's a gift from Him.
  • 01:08:24
    I have this innate sense of just asking questions
  • 01:08:26
    and being curious, and it makes me a learner.
  • 01:08:29
    It's so great and I love it from God.
  • 01:08:31
    It's a gift and my response is to say, "God,
  • 01:08:34
    I praise You because of how You made me.
  • 01:08:37
    You made me fearfully and wonderfully."
  • 01:08:40
    And guess what? He made you that way too.
  • 01:08:45
    I hope You said thank you to Him as he sang that song.
  • 01:08:49
    God, I thank You for the truth of Your gospel
  • 01:08:52
    that is always better than all of the imposters.
  • 01:08:57
    I thank You for the reality
  • 01:08:59
    of the fact that You've made us.
  • 01:09:00
    And I just pray, God, for everyone here,
  • 01:09:02
    particularly the person who walked in
  • 01:09:05
    believing they were just a lump of nothing,
  • 01:09:09
    God, that you would reform their identity,
  • 01:09:12
    that they say yes to You.
  • 01:09:13
    And I just say, if you've never said yes to Jesus before,
  • 01:09:16
    you can do it for the very first time.
  • 01:09:17
    You just say, "Jesus, I believe You are
  • 01:09:19
    who You say You are, and I say yes
  • 01:09:24
    to everything You have for me.
  • 01:09:27
    You define me because You made me. Amen.
  • 01:09:34
    - Hey, thank you so much for joining us today.
  • 01:09:36
    Now, while it's impossible for us to ship out
  • 01:09:38
    little pieces of clay to everyone on the planet,
  • 01:09:41
    I hope that you were connected with something
  • 01:09:44
    that Kyle shared today, that it resonated with you,
  • 01:09:46
    and that you can find a way to carry it into your life.
  • 01:09:49
    We never want this to just be something
  • 01:09:51
    that you watch and then forget about,
  • 01:09:53
    but our lives never change.
  • 01:09:54
    Everything that we do, we want
  • 01:09:56
    to help you grow closer to God.
  • 01:09:57
    And another way to do that is actually
  • 01:10:00
    on your phone through the Crossroads app.
  • 01:10:02
    Together as a church, we read through
  • 01:10:04
    different Bible scriptures, we daily pray together
  • 01:10:07
    thousands of prayers for each other,
  • 01:10:08
    we post articles, podcasts, and so much more.
  • 01:10:11
    Now, this isn't just more content to consume,
  • 01:10:14
    it's actually tools to help you grow
  • 01:10:16
    in relationship with Jesus and grow closer to Him.
  • 01:10:19
    You can check it out and download it
  • 01:10:20
    on your mobile device wherever you get your apps.
  • 01:10:23
    Hey, thank you so much for coming.
  • 01:10:25
    We'll see you back here next week.

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Welcome to the Weekend-Follow Up!

This is content that reflects on the Weekend message and how it can apply to your life. Each week, your group will discover what God might be saying to you, and how you can respond through a group discussion.

  1. What is something you wanted to be when you grew up? Why did it excite you?

  2. What stood out to you most from this week’s message? Why did that spark for you?

  3. What is something you are currently good at or proud of about yourself?

  4. When was the last time you felt unloved or undervalued? How did you move forward?

  5. Where in your life could you use more direction or purpose?

  6. Which do you identify with the most, the Secular Gospel (“you are random”) or the Religious Gospel (“you are average”)? Why do you think that is?

  7. Read Jeremiah 18:1-6.

    What makes it difficult for you to believe that God cares for you and is forming you into His masterpiece?

  8. Where this week can you take a step towards believing that you are fearfully and wonderfully made?

  9. Let’s end our time praying together. You can say something like;

    “God, thank you for giving us grace that comes with purpose. Thank you for loving us and being proud of us. Give us mental and emotional strength to believe Your word and the fight lies about ourselves. Amen.”

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  • How could your life be different if you trusted in this connection?
  • Do you feel like God is in the midst of re-molding something in your life right now?

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