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We're talking about
one of the biggest toxins
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in our culture today, it
destroys your relationships,
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it will keep you at odds with
God and we're finding the cure.
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And believe it or not, the cure
is in this abandoned house.
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- Hey, I'm Brian, Senior
Pastor at Crossroads.
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Before we get started
today, I want to show you
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some really, really cool
things have happened
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through our church
over the past year.
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We all know 2020 had
crazy stressful times,
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the world seemed to be
falling apart at various times,
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and yet God was using
our church Crossroads
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to make a
significant difference.
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Every year we do
an annual report.
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We just try to celebrate
the things that God
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has enabled to happen
through our church,
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through faithfulness
of givers like you and I.
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And the list of things
that have happened
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just keeps getting
longer and longer.
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And it gives me more reason
to be thankful for God using us
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and thankful to be
in ministry with you.
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And I want you to
feel that way, too.
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So we've got an annual report
and it's pretty, pretty cool.
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We want you to get it.
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You're going to
be able to get it
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at Crossroads.net/annualreport.
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We're going to email it to you.
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We want you to
be able to have it.
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Go through this and see the
amazing things that happened.
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You're going to see things
like Compassion International.
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You know, there's
all kinds of churches
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that wanted to help with
Compassion International,
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having kids get
sponsored to have lunches
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and their education taken
care of all the way through 18.
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Do you realize that
Crossroads is the only church
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in 2020 that didn't cancel.
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40% of all new sponsorships
to Compassion International
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came through our church
and through our broadcast.
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Way to go. That's
utterly amazing.
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You can check that information
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and so many more right
here on this annual report.
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And one of the things I
love when I look on this
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is just the basic life change,
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because that's always
what we major in:
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normal people like you
and I come to know Christ
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and getting deepened
in our life with Christ.
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And all of this
happens, in part,
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because God uses
the giving of you and I.
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There's a very small percentage
of us that when we give,
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we give out of a
spiritual discipline.
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It's a minority of us
actually that take it personal
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that it's a commandment
from God to actually give back
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to Him 10% of what
He's just given me.
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And if that is years
as a spiritual discipline,
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you're welcome to join
many of us on the blue team.
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We'd love to have
you on the blue team.
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You can go to
crossroads.net/blueteam.
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We give you special
encouragement,
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special information,
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and we really, really
geek out over stuff like this.
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And some of us might be
going, "Um, I might want
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to try that blue team.
That sounds really cool,
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but I'm not tithing.
I'm not ready."
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We really believe
this is a spiritual test
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that God tells us
that it's a spiritual test,
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the book of
Malachi says test us.
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So you can take the tithe
test by tithing for 90 days
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and we will refund all
the money you've given
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if you don't see God showing
up and blessing your life
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in some way, shape or form.
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You can go to
Crossroads.net/tithetest.
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Well, check out every little bit
& corner of this annual report.
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You're going to be encouraged.
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You're going to be
thankful that we serve a God
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that still uses
people like you and I.
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And let's get started with
week three of The Cure.
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- Deep in the South African
wild, the black mamba snake
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is one of the
deadliest in the world.
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The snakes fangs act
like a hypodermic needle,
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injecting venom
quickly and efficiently.
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It only takes two drops of
venom to spread toxic poison
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throughout the bloodstream.
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Luckily, if you act
quickly, there is a cure
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and you can survive.
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First, a tourniquet is used
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to stop the spread of the
poison through the body.
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Next, oxygen and
respiratory support is given
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because the heart
and lungs are weakened
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from the spread of toxins.
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Finally, the antidote
to the venom is injected
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directly into the
bloodstream to neutralize
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and eventually overcome
the poison that is being spread.
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Now, while few of us will
actually ever encounter
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a black mamba, maybe
even more dangerous
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are the toxins we
encounter every day.
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Navigating our current
reality can feel like
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a dangerous and
terrifying jungle
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full of snakes ready to bite.
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And just like a snake venom
travels through our bodies
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and attacks our organs,
the poisons of racial injustice
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and polarizing politics that
assault us in our news feeds
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and social media
accounts can quickly spread
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through our minds and hearts
to damage and shut down
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our healthy thoughts,
beliefs, emotions, and actions.
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The good news is that while
deadly, there is actually a cure
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to everything
toxic in our lives,
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an antidote within our
reach that will restore health
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and vibrancy to our
minds and hearts.
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Just like treating a
deadly mamba bite,
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we can cut off
the poison of pride
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that tells us that we
have to stay in control,
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turning instead to
the cure of humility.
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When our bodies and
souls are shutting down
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under the stress of daily
life, we can fill our lungs
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with life sustaining support
from the Bible, the Word of God.
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And when it feels like our
broken hearts will never heal
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and there is no hope,
we can inject ourselves
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with the truth of God, the
antidote that will neutralize
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the poison affecting
our entire world.
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- In his autobiography,
Mark Twain opens by saying,
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"What a wee little part of
a person's life are his acts
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and his words, his real
life is led in his head
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and is known to
none but himself."
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What is he saying there?
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He's saying the externals of
our life are kind of a facade.
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And what really is going on is
happening inside of our lives.
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I mean, this house is an
example of that. Think about it.
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This place right now
is a mess. Look at this.
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There's plaster. There's
all kinds of broken floor.
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But in its heyday,
this place was palatial
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by the standards of the day.
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But because all the
focus was on the facade,
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this place literally
rotted from the inside out.
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And that's what pride does.
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We're in a series called The
Cure, because look around,
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the world is toxic and you and
I experience those side effects.
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But there is a cure
that leads to freedom.
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And this week we're
looking at the cure for pride.
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Now, I want to just tell
you something about me
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that you should probably know.
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I used to sell drugs
in New Jersey.
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In fact, I was so good
at selling drugs in Jersey
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that I was promoted and
got actually more people
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who were selling drugs
for me in other states.
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Let me clarify.
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I was a pharmaceutical
rep, it was legal.
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I was a pharmaceutical sales rep
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and I led a
pharmaceutical sales team
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and that meant I
interacted with physicians.
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And in that role, I learned how
physicians think about diseases
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and how they process
to identify a cure.
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And we're going to do
that with pride today.
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Tim Keller is a
pastor and he said
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pride is the carbon
monoxide of sin. It's deadly.
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I agree with that.
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My take is pride is
silent and hard to detect,
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just like carbon monoxide.
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And if left
undetected, it kills.
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In fact, pride is one of those
sins, one of those toxins
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that we usually
realize a bit too late
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after it's already
destroyed a relationship
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or perhaps already isolated
us from the help that we need
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or put us at odds with God.
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And there's just no
life in opposition to God.
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So we're going to walk through
it like a physician would
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by first looking at the signs
and symptoms of pride.
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So just what are the signs
and symptoms of pride?
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Well pride is not new,
people have been writing
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about pride for years,
hundreds of years.
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But are seven
symptoms that kind of
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just run through
all the literature.
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And I think they're
even relevant today.
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The first is fault finding.
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You know, that person
that always seems to find
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fault in other people,
but never in themselves?
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Another one is a harsh spirit,
someone who's just mean,
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someone who just
seems to have a kind of
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an air of superiority
over other people.
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Also superficiality.
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You know that person that
like, "Gosh, can you get deep?
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Can you can you not
just give me the surface?"
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But then there's
also defensiveness.
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Presumption before
God is another one.
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This idea that, you
know, God must be okay
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with me being
desperate for attention.
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Or how about this
one? Playing favorites,
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choosing to treat people
who have more resources
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or more influence over
where you want to go,
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treating them better than
you would treat other people.
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You know those people.
You know those people.
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The question is, where
are we those people?
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I've got to tell you,
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in preparation for
this message on pride,
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I've just realized
that it's all about me.
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It's always been about me.
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Right now, even as I'm talking
to you, I'm thinking about me.
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I'm thinking about me.
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I've been looking at my life
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and realizing pride in
a lot of different places.
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One of them is this
whole idea of fault finding.
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And here's what's interesting.
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I've been realizing this dialog
goes on in my head all the time.
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It goes on when I'm
reading something.
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It goes on right now
as I'm communicating.
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It goes on when I'm
trying to be a good father
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or trying to be a good husband.
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And it's three voices.
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There's the voice of the enemy.
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Yes, you have a spiritual enemy
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and he's always
going to accuse you.
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Then there's the voice of God,
the voice that is not accusing,
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the voice that's inviting me,
that's encouraging me.
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But there's a third voice
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and it's this voice
of self condemnation.
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I've got to tell you,
I've realized that
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one of the ways that
pride plays out in me
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is I just condemn myself
over and over again
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for the ways that I
don't measure up. Why?
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Because somehow I think
I'm supposed to be perfect.
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Somehow I'm supposed
to be a good guy.
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I'm supposed to be the person
who can be better than this.
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I'm supposed to be the person
who can get over this thing.
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I'm supposed to be the person
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that doesn't
struggle in this way.
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And I'm just telling you, I've
been listening to that voice
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for far too long and I feel
like God's been helping me
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to see that's pride in
me, that pride in me.
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Another way of pride shows up
in my life is in superficiality.
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I never want people
to see me upset.
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I have taken on the
identity of being the nice guy,
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and I've taken
that on to a fault.
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It doesn't mean I
need to be a jerk,
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but it means that it's okay
to have a range of emotions.
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And pride is the thing that
would keep me from demonstrating
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that I have a full
range of emotions,
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that I'm not always
happy go lucky.
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These signs and
symptoms of pride
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show up in all of our lives.
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Where is Pride
showing up for you?
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Thankfully, though,
there is a cure.
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There is a cure and the
cure is found in the Bible.
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In fact, the cure is found
in the person of Jesus.
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Jesus is the ultimate
example of what it looks like
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to walk free of
the toxin of pride.
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And in Philippians 2 we
see this scripture that defines
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and describes the journey that
you and I are invited to go on
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to have freedom from pride.
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So we talk signs and symptoms
and we have a diagnosis,
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the disease is pride and
we all suffer from it, even me.
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That's supposed to be a joke.
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But what's the cure?
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Well, we see in the
scripture this simple principle.
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And I want you to hear this,
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if you don't hear
anything else today,
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that the cure for pride
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is the practice of humility.
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Yes, the practice of humility.
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Now, when I say practice,
think about it this way.
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What's the cure for obesity?
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Well, for most of us, it's
the practice of healthy eating.
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And in the same way,
there are practices
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that we can engage in that
come against the toxin of pride.
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In places in the
Bible like Philippians 2
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this gets blown out.
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And I love this picture
because it gives us
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the picture of Jesus as
one who practices humility.
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Philippians 2:3 and
following say this:
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Now there are modern
day translations of the Bible,
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modern day
paraphrases of the Bible.
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There's one in particular
called The Message,
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and I love how it
captures what we just read.
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It says: Don't push
your way to the front.
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Don't sweet talk
your way to the top.
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Put yourself aside.
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In fact, as I read this,
I just want you to think
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about how many times
you hear the word privilege,
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just kind of locked down
in your brain right now.
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It goes on to say:
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There's just no escaping
the fact that Jesus
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is a powerful example
of a life of humility,
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that in all the things
that he was,
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he was humble, he was humble.
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And as we think about what
we learn in that passage,
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we see some clues, we
see some ways that you and I
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can do like Jesus did,
that we can have a life
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and a practice of humility.
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The first thing it
says is do nothing
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out of selfish
ambition or conceit.
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You know what
that reminds me of?
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It reminds me to ask myself,
what's your intent here, Chuck?
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Is my intent to look good,
even at the expense of others?
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Is my intent in a
relationship in maybe
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a difficult
conversation to be right
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as opposed to being relational?
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Am I going into this to tell or
am I going into this to learn?
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So it starts with our intent.
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But then it also says, don't
just look to your own interests,
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but also to the
interests of others.
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There's this idea that humility
means you defer to other people.
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It doesn't mean you
demean yourself.
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It doesn't mean that you
don't have healthy boundaries.
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But there's an
opportunity and a freedom
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that a humble person
has to defer to others,
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to consider other
people's perspectives.
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Such a critical, critical thing.
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And then in verse seven it
says that Jesus emptied himself.
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He took the form of a servant,
like we read in the paraphrase,
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it means he laid
aside privileges.
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You know what I realized?
Pride is about privilege.
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There are places in my
life where I feel privileged.
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I feel privileged to
judge other people
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or I feel privileged
to be right,
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or I have the
privilege to say, "Hey,
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let's make this all about me."
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But practicing
a life of humility
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is actually doing the opposite.
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It's laying aside that privilege
and choosing to be humble.
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- Nineteen years ago, I
started my own business.
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Like a lot of entrepreneurs,
I didn't really have a plan,
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just a dream of what I
thought my business could be
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and a strong work ethic.
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As the business started
to grow, I remember feeling
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a really healthy sense of pride,
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seeing the blessings it
was creating for my family,
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for our first employees,
and for our customers.
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I don't remember
when it happened,
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but things started to change.
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Pride created a
shortcut to what I wanted,
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and it didn't involve actually
putting in the hard work
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that I used to.
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Instead, I was just
attracted to situations
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where I could get the feedback
that I needed, the validation.
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It all culminated for me in 2012
when we had a company retreat.
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We brought everybody in
from all over the country.
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I stood there on stage that day
in front of hundreds of people
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and delivered a plan.
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There really wasn't
anything wrong with the plan,
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except that I hadn't
done the work
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to make the plan successful.
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Pride had hollowed out the
hard work that I used to put in,
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and instead I was
enjoying the feedback
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I was getting about the plan.
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Within a month, it became clear
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that I was going
to lose everything.
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I remember dropping
to my knees in my office
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and just crying out to God
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and I felt like I heard
His voice again.
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00:16:30
But that day, hearing
God's voice again,
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I knew there was a way
forward. I knew I could rebuild.
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00:16:35
Pride wasn't an illness
I could just recover from
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00:16:38
and be done with forever.
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00:16:39
Pride is always there
lurking in the background.
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00:16:42
The only way I found
to consistently break
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00:16:45
the false identity
pride tries to create
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00:16:47
is by turning to humility.
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00:16:49
The changes in my
life, my marriage,
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00:16:52
and my business
are unbelievable.
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00:16:55
I'm really glad God gave
me what I thought I wanted
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00:16:58
so I could learn
what I really needed.
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00:17:08
- So I've been doing
these experiments.
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00:17:10
I've been doing
experiments because I know
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00:17:13
I have an issue with pride.
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00:17:15
And I've been doing
these experiments as a way
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00:17:17
to understand the ways
that pride is playing out,
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00:17:20
where is that toxin
showing up in my life,
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00:17:22
and also to walk
in more freedom.
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00:17:24
One of the experiments
is called Look at That.
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00:17:27
And it's just this recognition
that what pride wants to do
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00:17:30
is get me to soak in all the
glory and admiration possible.
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00:17:33
Pride is me wanting to be
praised, wanting to be affirmed,
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00:17:37
wanting to always be the hero,
to fight for the accolades.
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00:17:40
And so here is what it's
looked like to lean into that
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00:17:43
in the way of a challenge.
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00:17:45
It's been to defer
to other people,
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00:17:47
to find places to
give praise to others.
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00:17:49
One example that came up in
the last couple of weeks for me
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00:17:51
was there was an event
that the organization
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00:17:54
that I lead, Undivided, was
doing, and it was a great event.
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00:17:57
We did it on Martin Luther
King Day and it was powerful.
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00:17:59
A lot of people loved it.
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00:18:00
They were like,
"Man, this is great."
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00:18:02
You know, at an event like
that where you're the leader,
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00:18:04
you're the person who's kind of
doing some of the key speaking.
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00:18:07
So people are like,
"Man, it was powerful
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00:18:08
to hear what you had to say."
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00:18:10
And I had to make a very
conscious choice to say,
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00:18:12
"Hey, listen, I think
that event was amazing.
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00:18:15
And what you need to know is
all of what you heard from me
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00:18:18
and all the other speakers
was orchestrated by my friend,
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00:18:22
my friend, who is leading in
that area of our organization.
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00:18:26
And she did an incredible job."
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00:18:27
And so it was an opportunity
for me to practice humility
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00:18:30
by saying, "You know what? Yes.
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00:18:31
There's a level of praise and
accolades coming my way,
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00:18:34
but really that needs to
be refocused over here
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00:18:36
because her leadership is
what made that possible."
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00:18:40
Another practice is, or another
challenge you might say,
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00:18:43
is saying these
words: It's my fault.
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00:18:47
Say it with me: It's my fault.
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00:18:49
I know it's hard for
some of you to say that.
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00:18:51
Come on, you can
say it. It's my fault.
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00:18:55
Because what pride
wants us to do is to judge
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00:18:58
everybody else's imperfections
and to almost ignore
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00:19:01
and be blinded to our own.
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00:19:03
And so one of the places where
I've been leaning into this
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00:19:06
is just finding ways to say
I'm sorry when I'm wrong
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00:19:09
and being proactive about that.
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00:19:11
I hate saying I'm sorry.
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00:19:13
Am I the only one? I
hate saying I'm sorry.
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00:19:15
I want to be right. I
want to be the good guy.
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00:19:17
I want to be the
person who did it right.
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00:19:19
But man, I make
mistakes all the time.
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00:19:22
I offend people.
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00:19:23
I fail people.
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00:19:25
So here's one that came up as an
experiment opportunity for me.
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00:19:29
It was with my kids.
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00:19:30
You ever have to say
you're sorry to your kids?
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00:19:33
Yeah, I've had to do
that a bunch of times.
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00:19:35
One that was it was
it was the morning,
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00:19:37
we're getting ready for
school. I was just flustered.
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00:19:40
My kids didn't have anything to
do with the way my day started.
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00:19:42
And I was already
flustered before I started
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00:19:44
to get them up and
ready for school.
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00:19:45
So, of course,
every little thing.
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00:19:47
"Get your boots on, shoes on.
Why does this take so long?"
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00:19:49
I was just flustered
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00:19:50
and I was just basically
taking out all of my kids.
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00:19:53
So I get them to school and
as I'm kind of opening the door
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00:19:56
and getting them out, my oldest
son looks at me and he says,
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00:19:59
"Dad, Dad, Dad, just
take a deep breath."
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00:20:03
I stopped and he got
out and went to school.
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00:20:07
And I went to work,
which I got to on time,
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00:20:09
all that flustering
and blustering
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00:20:11
didn't mean I was late.
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00:20:12
And the first thing I
did was I sat down
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00:20:14
and I wrote my son an
email and I said, "Hey.
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00:20:17
I took that deep breath
you asked me to take,
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00:20:20
and you were right
and I was wrong."
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00:20:23
I had to tell him in that
moment, in that morning
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00:20:25
you were more mature than me.
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00:20:27
You're the son, I'm the
parent, but you were acting
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00:20:29
much more parent-ly
than I was in that moment.
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00:20:32
I was wrong."
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00:20:33
It was an opportunity
to practice humility.
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00:20:36
You know what? It bonded
us relationally in a great way.
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00:20:39
Then here's another experiment
I've been doing is this one,
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00:20:42
I've been saying these
three words: I need help.
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00:20:47
I need help, because
what pride wants us to do
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00:20:52
is to not ask questions.
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00:20:53
I think this is actually
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00:20:54
the most insidious
thing pride will do.
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00:20:55
Pride will keep you isolated
from the help you need.
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00:20:59
It will keep you from
asking for it in the places
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00:21:02
where you could have incredible
growth and incredible freedom.
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00:21:05
It assumes that you're
an independent expert
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00:21:07
on everything.
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00:21:08
And none of us, none
of us are without places
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00:21:12
in our lives where we need help.
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00:21:13
And a lot of us know
we've got places in our life
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00:21:15
we need a lot of help.
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00:21:16
So you know what my practice,
my experiment has been?
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00:21:20
I've been seeing a therapist.
I've been going to therapy.
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00:21:23
And it's an opportunity
for me to talk about life
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00:21:26
with someone who can help.
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00:21:28
I've got a lot of new
things happening in my life,
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00:21:30
a lot of change.
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00:21:31
I've been struggling
with a lot of insecurity
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00:21:33
and lack of confidence,
and I've found a place
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00:21:36
with this therapist
to process that,
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00:21:38
to talk through that, to
get the help that I need.
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00:21:42
And so I'm telling you,
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00:21:43
it's been changing
my life to do that.
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00:21:45
So, I want to give
you a prescription
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00:21:49
because let's be honest,
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00:21:50
let's be honest now,
when you go to the doctor
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00:21:53
and you have a disease,
you have a sickness,
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00:21:55
you don't want the doctor
at the end of the medical visit
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00:21:57
to just say, "Hey,
you know what,
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00:21:58
I don't have
anything to give you,
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00:22:00
but I want to encourage
you to keep on going."
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00:22:02
No, you want something,
right? "Give me a prescription."
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00:22:04
Hey, I want to give
you a prescription.
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00:22:06
If you recognize that pride
and the toxicity of pride
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00:22:10
is playing out in your life,
I want to challenge you
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00:22:13
to do one or maybe all
three of the experiments
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00:22:16
that I've been doing.
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00:22:17
So that's the prescription:
practice humility.
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00:22:21
But you can't do that
on your own, you can't.
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00:22:24
And the Bible
doesn't expect you to.
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00:22:27
The writer of
Philippians earlier,
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00:22:29
before all those verses
where we get the,
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00:22:31
hey, look at the example of
Jesus and do these things,
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00:22:33
he actually gives us
the motivation for this,
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00:22:36
the power with which
we can practice humility.
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00:22:39
He says this in Philippians 2:1
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00:22:52
You know what he's saying there?
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00:22:53
He's saying when you remember
how much Jesus loves you,
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00:22:57
it helps you love others, it
helps you defer to others.
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00:23:01
When you take comfort
from the love of Jesus,
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00:23:04
you won't seek comfort
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00:23:05
in needing the
esteem of other people.
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00:23:07
That's what he's saying.
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00:23:08
This is how we live out
the practice of humility.
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00:23:11
And so I just want to encourage
you to take the prescription,
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00:23:16
because toxicity
from pride will kill.
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00:23:19
It will kill all kinds
of things in your life,
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00:23:21
but there is so much
life and so much joy
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00:23:25
on the other side of pride.
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00:23:27
Let's agree, let's agree to
practice this together so we can
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00:23:31
have more of the freedom that
God wants for us in this area.
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00:23:33
Let me pray for you.
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00:23:35
God, I do ask that
for every person
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00:23:37
who is engaging right now,
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00:23:39
you would point out
the places in our lives
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00:23:42
where we have been
affected by the toxic pride
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00:23:46
that just affects humanity
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00:23:48
and help us to lean into
these practices of humility
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00:23:52
and ultimately,
Jesus, to lean in to you,
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00:23:55
to experience a life of freedom
on the other side of pride.
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00:23:59
In Jesus's name, Amen.
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00:24:03
You know, perhaps
one of the biggest ways
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00:24:05
we can practice humility
is by posturing ourselves
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00:24:09
and singing to God
together. Let's do that now.
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00:26:31
- So what we're going to do
right now is we're simply
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00:26:33
going to posture ourselves
in a position of gratitude,
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00:26:37
saying, "God, we want to thank
You for what You're going to do
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00:26:41
in all of these different
aspects of our lives
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00:26:43
and in our future and our
purpose and our families
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00:26:48
and our homes and our cities.
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00:26:50
We're going to lift up gratitude
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00:26:51
over all these different
aspects of our life.
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00:26:54
This is what we've seen people
do all throughout history,
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00:26:57
the people of God
responding in humility
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00:27:02
to a God who was gracious
to us day after day after day.
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00:27:07
So regardless of your
situation right now,
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00:27:10
I want to challenge you to
respond in gratitude right now.
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00:29:48
We'd love to sing
a blessing over you.
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00:29:51
Right now where you
are we want to bless you.
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00:29:55
Your purpose, your future,
your family, your house.
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00:30:00
So, would you put
your hands like this
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00:30:02
in a posture of
receiving right now?
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00:30:04
Put your hands like this.
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00:30:07
And we're simply going to
sing God's intentions over you.
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00:30:12
You can agree simply by singing
the name of Jesus with us.
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00:30:16
So we'll sing over your future,
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00:30:19
over your house,
over your purpose, Jesus.
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00:30:23
And if you don't have
the courage to speak it,
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00:30:26
simply whisper the name
of Jesus with us right now.
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00:33:35
- And that kind of surrender
is the key to overcoming
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00:33:39
the pride that wants to control
you and wants to control me.
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00:33:41
And look as your pastor for
Crossroads Church online,
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00:33:44
I want to be there for
you on that journey.
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00:33:46
If I can help you in any
way, get you connected,
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00:33:48
get you the care that you
need, please reach out.
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00:33:50
Please let me know.
You can just e-mail me.
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00:33:52
This is my email address
right here. Not a junk mail box.
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00:33:55
Doesn't go to a robot,
it goes to me.
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00:33:56
I'll do my best to reach
out to you within 24 hours
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00:33:59
and if you need help right now,
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00:34:01
go to our website
crossroads.net.
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00:34:03
Click that orange chat icon.
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00:34:05
Someone is waiting
to talk to you right now.
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00:34:08
Next week to keep going in
the series called The Cure.
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00:34:10
Brian will be talking about
the key to overcoming the fear
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00:34:14
that wants to control you
and wants to control me.
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00:34:16
We'll see you then.